Evening Chronicle, 25 April 2011
Hypnotherapy helps individuals overcome obsessions, grief and addictions through the use of relaxation techniques. Here, Marion Sauvebois looks at how this therapy encourages patients to regain control of their lives
THREE years ago, Leigh Adams decided to give up chocolate.
The “Cadbury girl”, as she called herself, did not want to eat less of it – she wanted to be rid of the irrepressible need to “stuff” herself.
Leigh (pictured front with hynotherapist Ella Spencer) never thought of hypnotherapy as a way out of this chocolate-binge cycle but, after a hypnotherapist friend suggested a session might relieve her, she gave it a try.
She has not had any chocolate since.
For a long time, eating Twirl after Twirl did not seem like such a bad thing.
“I did not see eating chocolate as a big problem. Everybody loves chocolate,” the 50-year-old from North Shields, North Tyneside, explained.
“It is not great for you, but I thought that, after all, it was not like drinking or smoking.”
But over the years, the occasional treats became an essential part of Leigh’s daily routine, which she would crave all day.
She added: “It was like a ritual.
“I would have a piece of chocolate every day at lunchtime and another at around eight at night as a reward for a long day.
“When I went to the restaurant I would look straight at the dessert menu and chocolatey things.
“Even if I had eaten a big meal, I would always be able to eat chocolate. It was an urge but also a habit.
“I’d always make sure I had chocolate in the house. I used to go the newsagent and buy a whole box of Cadbury Twirls.”
The delightful sugar rush soon left a bitter taste in her mouth.
“I used to feel guilty and disappointed after eating a chocolate bar. It doesn’t even fill you,” the mother-of-three said.
Leigh would go to extremes for her “fix” and, on occasion, literally braved the elements to get her daily hit.
“If I wanted chocolate and there was none in the house, I would get my children dressed and make them walk in the snow to go and buy some,” she said.
“I would use them as an excuse, saying that they were the ones who wanted chocolate.”
The time came when enough was enough.
The detrimental health consequences of her addiction played a significant part in her decision to give up all forms of chocolate. But what convinced Leigh was the prospect of regaining control of her life and needs.
“I was a slave to chocolate. It was like a drug. I was a chocoholic,” she said.
“It took over my life. It was fattening and bad for my teeth.”
Not entirely sure of the benefits of hypnotherapy, she made an appointment with clinical and analytical hypnotherapist Ella Spencer. After one session, her need for chocolate disappeared altogether.
“Hypnotherapy only works if you really want it to,” explained Leigh.
“You have to want to change for yourself. It worked straightaway for me. I am still surrounded by chocolate. My children love it and I regularly buy it and cook it for them but I have no desire to put it in my mouth.
“A lot of people ask me, ‘How do you not eat any chocolate?’ I don’t even think about it.
“I don’t pick as much now and I’ve lost a fair bit of weight. It’s not an obsession any more.”
Regaining control of your life is key to hypnotherapy.
Ella Spencer has helped many individuals like Leigh to change unwanted behaviours and break destructive thought patterns.
“We are quite often our worst enemies,” Ella explained.
“Hypnotherapy is about helping people overcome what may be holding them back from who they want to be.
“I show my clients how they can regain control of their thoughts. They understand their thought pattern and that the way they are thinking is not serving them right.
“When people are bogged down by negative thoughts, the body feels it and that’s why many stressed people feel necks pains, headaches or have stomach problems.
“Hypnotherapy is a natural state of relaxation, a state of trance. It is like drifting into a daydream – you are in control at all times while listening to the therapist’s suggestions.”
Many people associate hypnotherapy with quitting smoking or weight management, but more and more people seek this kind of therapy to alleviate the pain of cancer or treat chronic panic attacks.
“I have had several clients with cancer,” Ella said.
“When you have a serious health problem, the first thing you do is start to think about it.
“You get worried and scared.
“Stress is one of the worst triggers of pain. But stress, anxiety and fear are not physical problems – they are thoughts. They can increase physical pain and make the situation much worse. Once stress is released, a lot of the pain goes away.”
One of her clients came to her in desperation. She had tried every treatment she could think of to get rid of the panic attacks which plagued her existence. The crippling bouts made her physically sick and she became unable to leave her house.
“She had to take time off work,” Ella said. “She tried many things before coming to see me and even had surgery for stomach problems. She was in a lot of pain.
“She was overwhelmed by fear. I started by giving her small goals like going to the pub, then going to the shop.
“She managed to bring control back into her life. Before, the panics were controlling her. She is fantastic now and lives normally again.”
Sonya Hudson lost her brother in a motorbike accident in 2003. A hypnotherapist herself, she focused her attention on helping others, unconsciously avoiding dealing with the sense of loss which would occasionally overwhelm her.
“His death came out of the blue. He was 30 and had just had a baby. The whole family fell apart. It turned my whole world upside down,” the 47-year-old from Wallsend, North Tyneside, said. “After a while, I thought I had managed to deal with his death, but I had only suppressed things.
“I didn’t realise it then but a part of me hadn’t let go. There would be times in the week when I would feel down. I had no idea why I was so low all of a sudden. I had no reason to be unhappy.
“I would burst into tears just walking the dog and didn’t know what I was crying about. I have a brilliant husband and three gorgeous sons. There was no reason for it.”
The mere mention of her late brother was unbearable to Sonya and her unacknowledged emotions seriously affected her relationship with her nephew.
“My brother’s son looks exactly like him. Every time I saw him I couldn’t stop thinking about my dead brother,” she said.
“The mad thing is that I loved my nephew to bits but I couldn’t spend a lot of time with him because it would make me upset. When I thought of my brother, I would see him lying in a coffin. He wouldn’t have wanted me to remember him like that.
“If my family got into a conversation about him, I would try to change the subject or walk out of the room. As a therapist I could spot the same problem in other people but I couldn’t spot it in myself.”
Attending a session as a patient with hypnotherapist Ella, for a completely different purpose, she found herself bursting into tears and beset by grief.
“I realised that the grief was still there. It turned into a letting-go session. I felt such a sense of relief afterwards,” she said.
“I don’t go over the details of his death any more. I think about my brother on a daily basis and I can smile now when I do. I don’t get sad.
“I can talk about him and now I remember him as the lively person he was. I look at my nephew and he keeps my vibrant, happy-go-lucky brother alive.”